October 21, 2017

Readathon October 2017: Hour 1


#Readathon is here! :) Today I am a bit more tired due to have worked night shifts for the past two nights, but screw that. It's gonna be awesome anyway! 

What is my goal? To read and have fun on Twitter and discussing awesome books!! :D

To read list:
Dirty Rich One Night Stand by Lisa Renee Jones 
Devil In Spring by Lisa Kleypas (288 pages)
Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell

1) What fine part of the world are you reading from today?
I am reading from Brussels, Belgium! 

2) Which book in your stack are you most looking forward to?
For Devil in Spring! The reviews were stunning so I am expecting the same from the book!

3) Which snack are you most looking forward to?
COFFEEEEE all the way! And pasta with tuna, I am so hungry is bizarre. 

4) Tell us a little something about yourself!
I moved to Brussels in October 2016 and never looked back. I worked at the European Commission and then I was working in communications at the European Cyclists' Federation. I really like in here. I love to read Adult and New adult books. I like Romance. Dystopia, contemporary, historical.. it has to have at least some romance in it and I am a happy girl!

5) If you participated in the last read-a-thon, what’s one thing you’ll do different today? If this is your first read-a-thon, what are you most looking forward to?
I've learnt that reading contemporary romance books is the best for this kind of events - it goes faster. And I'll try to check more blogs and meet new awesome bloggers :) Click the follow button straight away, cause if not, it's lost forever. Learnt the hard way!

You can find me on Twitter here: @neabarabea
You can find me on Facebook here: MyLifeIsaFairytaleThatWillNeverEnd.

Happy readathon to all of you amazing people :) Good luck! Lets have a good adventure together! Remember to comment and take breaks! :) Drink lots of water (not only coffee!) and exercise from time to time ;)


October 18, 2017

#MeToo and Our Chance To Create a Better Tomorrow For All


There has been a lot of talk about how women are being treated in general in today's society in the past week. I am glad the communication has started. 
Finally, we are talking about it. This is the beginning of something great. Today is a great day. 
You've probably all read about the Hollywood director, that I won't bother mentioning the name of, and how he abused women for years. That is how ultimate power must feel huh? You are the biggest dude in the Hollywood and you think you are what, God? It gets normalised that you can just assault women but hey, I'm the biggest director and that makes it ok? Fuck that. No, it doesn't. Actions have consequences.

This past week has been full of it. The Hollywood story and the #MeToo campaign sparkled a lot of conversation and women are coming forward, some years later. Many of them years later. Many of us years later. And I think this is great. Because you know what? I think women around the world who have been abused have never felt less alone that in the past week. Abuse makes you hide in yourself, it makes you become smaller, and lonely in this. And when people around you don't bat an eye when it happens it speaks volumes too. But not this week. This week we are speaking up. I have seen so many #metoos that it makes you cringe. This is not ok. This is not anymore »oh, but it was a little thing. I'm sure no-one would care about this if I report it, they would laugh at me« thing, this is huge and we can now see that is happening to everyone around us.

Reese Witherspoon came forward and addressed it in her acceptance speech. And I don't care that she spoke up after 25 years, I don't care. The important thing is, she did. Because, you know, we psychologists know fear can be huge, but as soon as you share it with someone and just tell it to someone that fear it's a little smaller and then a little smaller and then you know it's not as big as it was before, and that's it. You have the power again to be in control. Not controlled by fear, but controlled by you. I hope she will be able to sleep better now. Good luck Reese, and thank you for sharing your story.

Lena Dunham came forward with a beautiful article about how powerful men are not coming forward with a statement. With any statement. That to me speaks volumes. She also writes how she has experienced Hollywood. Thank you Lena, for you sharing your story too.  

Everyday we see more women from all types of industries and backgrounds coming forward saying that this happened to them. Some of them are more famous therefore have a bigger reach, but women are coming forward from all sides. I mean, how many of them need to come forward for us to understand this is a big problem, and we need to start seriously addressing it? How many? Millions? 

Isn't that one of your friends enough, or your neighbour or your ex-classmate or your coworker? How many do you need to open your eyes and realise this is not ok, and we are not gonna stay by and let it happen anymore. We stand up for each other. When you see someone in need of help and can't help herself, why not step up? I did it before. And I'll do it again. You can too.

I have many critics when it comes to Slovenia and the way things are done there, but I have to high five my country for one big thing, as for during 22 years growing up in Slovenia I have never felt inferior to the boys. Ever. In Slovenia, it's general knowledge that people respect and value people who are hard-working so they either study and they study hard or they have a job and they work hard. I was always good in school, so I had no problems. I also had summer jobs and some sort of financial independence. I went to a lot of parties, but I always knew the balance. Many boys didn't really study in school so they had bad grades.. You see where I'm going? I never felt inferior. I also studied psychology, so my classmates were mainly girls. But still. That was my experience. It's when I went abroad in my 20es that I started noticing things. In the UK it was mostly social class inequality, but I must say that here in Brussels I see more gender inequality problem. I took me time to realise what I was actually seeing. Most of the time is so subtle that I brush it off. Believe me, it's a horrifying feeling when you discover just how much of brushing off you did in your life. Or in the office.

Mayim did a great video and opened a discussion about how we raise the little boys in society. I agree with many of her points, but her points aren't anything new – she pointed out all the factors that make us human beings who respect the other people in society. And this applies to all of us, not only little boys. Treat people as equals with respect.

I've been talking with many girls here in Brussels coming from many parts of the world. And when we share our stories and our views of the world we can see that we are always coming up with the same 3 main problems.

Being treated as property
The more I'm growing up the harder it seems to be getting. I mean, it's everywhere. It's like I can't walk down the street without someone staring or I dropping a comment or approaching me, I mean, what is this? Let me enlighten you. It's a hot October day which is a rarity, I wear shorts, go to the park to enjoy the sun and after that, I go to work, and omg from the look on my coworkers face you'd think I came to work in my underwear. Can we stop commenting women's bodies like we are observing the value of a car? And then the comments, and I was like »Geez, it's a pair of legs. I'm sure you've seen them before«. Your reaction isn't my responsibility. Mind you, with all the sexualised adverts and music videos and the list go on and on. Or meeting someone in a group setting and you smile twice at a guy, and the one next to you tell him straight away »she is single ;)«. What. The. Fuck. Is. This.?! Do I go around selling you on the street like a piece of meat?! No, I don't. Is it so much of an effort to ask the same in return? And second, I can take care of myself and most importantly, I make decisions by myself. If I need advice I will ask for it, if not, just be quiet. And these above were just random occurrences, not the ugly ones.

Being talked over aka mansplaining
I love how people who read few self-help »psychology« books or few scientific articles come to me and explain psychology to me. And think they have the same knowledge as me, who owns a master degree in psychology. That will never chase to amaze me. Two weeks ago I had a guy explain to me the Pokemon Go game when he never played in his life after I told him I like to play it. Colour me shocked. Pissed off too. What is this?

Being told how we feel
You'd be surprised by the number of encounters that I had when I was told by a guy that this is how I feel. And I tell them, no, this is how I feel. These are my feelings, right? I sure damn well know how I feel. And they just won't get it. And again I ask myself, do I go around telling people how they feel with complete disregard to their actual feelings? No, I don't. Can we please treat other people with common human decency? Actually, listen to others when they speak? Can we start doing that? We are not asking to be treated as goddesses, we are asking to be treated as human beings.

And what I would really like to stress to all the men out there, please, this is not me saying all men are shit. It's not. What I'm saying is, we all need to contribute in real life in real situations to get rid of this problem. 

As in, stand up for other women, support other women, and don't joke it of you know it's »whatever«, it's not. We, women always supported you (think of your sister, mother, friend, girlfriend, all of them in your life), and now we are asking you to support us in this. 

It's in the microsystems that changes are the most effective and then influence all society. Start from there. And see the change happening. 
Let's create a snowball effect that the world has never seen before. Take it as a challenge.

Let's create a better tomorrow. Together.

September 19, 2017

Top 10 Books On My Fall TBR List

It's Top 10 Tuesday (hosted at The Broke and the Bookish) and the topic is:  
Top 10 Books On My Fall To-Be-Read List
1. Lord of Shadows by Cassandra Clare
2. Warcross by Marie Lu 
3. Life After Legend by Marie Lu
4. Turtles All the Way Down by John Green 
5. Letters to the Lost by Brigid Kemmerer 
6. Alex, Approximately by Jenn Bennett
7. Devil in Spring by 
8. This Darkness Mine by Mindy McGinnis
9. Any Lisa Kleypas book
10. Any Jennifer L. Armentrout book  

What are your #top10 book on your Fall TBR list? :) 



August 14, 2017

Top 10 Summer Beach Reads

It's Top 10 Tuesday (hosted at The Broke and the Bookish) and the topic is:  
Top 10 Books I'd Recommend As Good Beach Reads
One Night of Sin by Ella Kennedy
A fighter and a good girl crossing path and sparks start flying? Hell yeah! 

Just One Day by Gayle Forman 
A Summer trip around Europe? Going to Paris for one day with a hot Dutch guy? Perfect Summer read for you just here!

Dirty Deeds by Megan Erickson
A girl mechanic and a kinda socially awkward British dude? This book is hilarious and it's definitely perfect for a Summer read if you want to have a laugh!

Wild by Sophie Jordan
I don't know about you but Georgia and Logan are just my favourite. The push and pull in this book are just wow. Have a hot Summer read ;)

Secrets of a Summer Night by Lisa Kleypas
Aww, this historical romance will guide you into society and the lives of 4 spinsters. They make a pact to help each other get the marriage they wanted. Brilliant. This series is absolutely brilliant. All the girls are just badass. 

Sweet Filthy Boy By Christina Lauren
Getting married in Vegas in one crazy night and then moving to Paris for the Summer with you new stranger husband? I absolutely loved Mia and Ansel's story!

The Deal by Ella Kennedy
Let me tell you guys, this is the best New Adult Contemporary Romance out there! It's sexy, refreshing, with meaningful characters and a deeper story. And the hottest guy on earth in it.!

Anna and the French Kiss by Stephanie Perkins 
This book is the best YA Contemporary Romance that there is. I swear Anna and Etienne will transport you in a world that is just so relatable and real. The plus is that is happening in Paris!

Let's Get Lost by Adi Alsaid
A road trip to Alaska to see the Northern lights? YES.

The Edge of Never by J. A. Redmerski
Wanting to change your life so bad you go and sit on a random bus to take you to the other side of America to discover yourself and what you really want in life and meet a hot guy on the way too? And ending up doing a road trip with the said hot guy? This book is made of awesome. 

Losing it by Cora Carmack
This book will have you laughing you ass off pretty much the whole time. It's a light read and Bliss and Garrick are just adorable together! This book is one of the best of its genre out there!
Ok, these are my choices that I would recommend to someone to read on a beach :) All these are light reads with a very compelling story line ;) I liked them all very much <3

What books do you like to read on the beach? :)
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July 03, 2017

Just One Day by Gayle Forman Review

Just One Day
by Gayle Forman
Published on August 20th 2013
Speak, 369 pages


Allyson Healey's life is exactly like her suitcase—packed, planned, ordered. Then on the last day of her three-week post-graduation European tour, she meets Willem. A free-spirited, roving actor, Willem is everything she’s not, and when he invites her to abandon her plans and come to Paris with him, Allyson says yes. This uncharacteristic decision leads to a day of risk and romance, liberation and intimacy: 24 hours that will transform Allyson’s life.

A book about love, heartbreak, travel, identity, and the “accidents” of fate, Just One Day shows us how sometimes in order to get found, you first have to get lost. . . and how often the people we are seeking are much closer than we know.

- goodreads.com description


“Part of me knows one more day won't do 
anything except postpone the heartbreak.
But another part of me believes differently.
We are born in one day.
We die in one day.
We can change in one day.
And we can fall in love in one day.
Anything can happen in just one day.”

This book was absolutely brilliant. I loved it. 

I read the Just One Year as well. But Just One Day is my absolute favourite. Allyson's journey of discovery of the wonderful place called life was just mesmerising. Sometimes a bit painful as it hit a little too close to home. 



May 04, 2017

It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover Review

It Ends With Us
by Colleen Hoover
Published on August 2nd 2016
Atria Books, 376 pages



SOMETIMES THE ONE WHO LOVES YOU IS THE ONE WHO HURTS YOU THE MOST

Lily hasn't always had it easy, but that's never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. She's come a long way from the small town in Maine where she grew up - she graduated from college, moved to Boston, and started her own business. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily's life suddenly seems almost too good to be true.

Ryle is assertive, stubborn, and maybe even a little arrogant. He's also sensitive, brilliant, and has a total soft spot for Lily, but Ryle's complete aversion to relationships is disturbing.

As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan - her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

With this bold and deeply personal novel, Colleen Hoover delivers a heart-wrenching story that breaks exciting new ground for her as a writer. It Ends With Us is an unforgettable tale of love that comes at the ultimate price.

- Goodreads.com description

Cycles exist because they are excruciating to break. 
It takes an astronomical amount of pain and
courage to disrupt a familiar pattern. Sometimes it
seems easier to just keep running in the same 
familiar circles, rather than facing the fear of 
jumping and possibly not landing on your feet.

Wow, honestly, I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I picked up this book. 
No. Idea.

Oh my feels, this book. It was one of the most real and heart breaking books I've ever read. It breaks my heart all over again when I think about it. 

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